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Therapist's Corner...Bringing Peace...

“First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others.” ~Thomas A Kempis

As you bring this year, 2013, to a close and open the door on a new year, you may be pondering your new year’s resolutions.  Before you jump into the next whirlwind of “to dos” and “resolutions” for self, take time to focus on self in the here and NOW!  Taking time for self can be the best gift you can give yourself as you step out of 2013 and into 2014.  Truly focusing on the present moment can bring you the highest degree of love for self and with that an enormous surge of peace surrounding you in this moment. 

Most of us spend more time worrying and fretting about things we have no control over or things that we wish we would have done or should have done or think that we could have done.  This often times causes undue stress and illness within our mind and body.  If you can take a brief moment today as you read this article and give thanks for your best self, you will likely walk away from this moment and into the next moment bringing peace not only to yourself but to those you love most, your family and friends around you.

Give yourself permission to focus today on just right now.  Look around you in your environment, do you see a twinkling star at night, or a sparkling ray of sun shining down on your living room floor?  Do you see the partner you met and fell in love with or that beautiful little being you helped bring into is world?  Do you see your aging parent who spent time and love caring for you to only now be wishing for your presence, if even in a phone call or a letter or a personal visit?  Is it the Nebraska winds blowing the winter air across your face to give you the freshness only one can receive in Nebraska or, the snowflakes tumbling down or the steam from your first cup of coffee this morning?  Whatever you find in your presence right now, give thanks for it in your life. Take this moment to close your eyes and bring your heart to it’s fullest awareness of those things around you that you promise to never take for granted and quietly slip into 2014 taking the peace surrounding you and share it with those you love.

~  Joni Reisinger, MS Ed., PLMHP, 

Kristen Headshot CroppedGuest Segment...
Cleaning Out Emotional Baggage
for the New Year

One of my favorite group topics at the hospital focuses on emotional baggage. As I prepped for group the other day, I realized that this was an especially apt topic at the beginning of the new year. Many people clean out and get organized at home or work—but maybe it’s time to start cleaning out our hearts and minds as well.

Baggage is exactly what it sounds like: The experiences and relationships that weigh us down, such as traumatic events or difficult relationships. Baggage is different for everyone, but we all have some baggage—I’ve learned to be very skeptical when a group member says he or she doesn’t have any! I’ve also learned that sometimes we’re very aware of our emotional baggage, and other times we’re not. We hold on to our baggage for a variety of reasons, such as guilt, not knowing how to get rid of it, or just being comfortable with it and not knowing anything different. If you’re ready to “clean out” some of your emotional baggage for the new year, here are some ideas.

-Figure out what’s behind it: Think about the events or relationships you carry around as baggage. Does your baggage center around a theme or emotion? Some common themes include guilt, shame, trust issues, anger, and fear.

-Tell your story: Words are powerful, whether written in a journal or spoken out loud to others. When we share our experiences, we can rephrase and reframe, and our story gets a little easier each time.

-Learn to be conscious of when your baggage weighs you down: Certain situations probably trigger you. Think back to times when you’ve felt triggered (or if you journal, take a look back)—these situations probably have some things in common, such as people who remind you of important people in your life, or certain emotional experiences.

-Figure out what you can do with your energy instead: As you figure out what triggers you, you can choose a positive, healthier reaction or method of coping. Fill in the blanks: “Instead of feeling (insert the emotion) whenever (insert the situation) triggers me, I look forward to doing (insert something positive) instead of (insert old reaction).” For example, “Instead of feeling angry whenever my mother says something disparaging, I look forward to channeling that energy into my daily workout instead of bottling it up and exploding later.”

-Most importantly, ask for help!: We all handle baggage differently, and we all have different amounts of it. No matter how overwhelming or inconsequential you feel your emotional baggage, asking for help from someone you trust is 100% acceptable—and healthy. Whoever you talk to, whether that’s a friend, pastor, counselor, etc., that person will be glad you reached out for help. Why tough it out alone when you can have the love, support, and guidance of someone else?

Best wishes for a new year filled with inner peace, clarity, and a lighter emotional “load”!

~ Kristen Eckhardt, MS Ed., Guest Columnist 

Sandstrom Judy

Tips from our EAP...
Balancing Work & Family

All of us must allocate 24 hours a day to the activities of life. How well we balance responsibilities with doing things we truly enjoy directly affects our quality of life. It also helps manage stress. Are you satisfied with your balance of time between work and family?

If you answered “no,” you are not alone. Achieving balance with work and family is an ongoing process of juggling responsibilities at work and the needs of family members. These needs change over time. The key to success is stepping back and periodically analyzing how things are going. You can then decide if changes are needed. The result will be enjoying your life more and being in harmony with the things you value most. 

  1. Work and Family Balance is a Conscious Decision. Work and family don’t “balance” automatically. Achieving balance is an ongoing process. Understanding  this can reduce frustration and help you act to gain control.

  2. Write Down Family Goals. Family needs change over time. Opportunities to build a tree house for the kids or participate in a new family pastime don’t last forever. Decide what is important and write it down. Assign a date, and make these goals “absolutely-will-happens.”

  3. Stick to Your Values. Sometimes it can be tough to make a choice between a family and a work activity. Knowing where you stand on your values can make tough choices easier.

  4. Recognize that Imbalance is Sometimes Inevitable. It is important to recognize that jobs and responsibilities are important and that they sometimes take priority.

  5. Revisit Your Schedule.  When your work schedule changes, new opportunities may become available to participate in family activities. Claim the high ground!

(Look for the final five tips in our next newsletter, due to come out on Jan. 8, 2014!)

~ Judy Sandstrom, EAP Coordinator

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