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Emerton SeanneTherapist's Corner...
Manifesting Our Dreams

Twenty five years ago I had a dream of creating Family Resources of Greater Nebraska….an entity to help bring healing, joy and hope into the lives of those it serves. It has a life of its own and has taught me much over the years. It continues to teach me and my heart brims with gratitude for the colleagues and clients that have found their way to our door. As we celebrated our 23rd birthday in 2014, we also marked the retirement of some of our long term valued colleagues (Judy Sandstrom, Joni Reisinger and Pam Clausen); and welcomed wonderful new colleagues to our team: Doug Tillman, Anna Hain, Jordan Plummer-Allen, Tabitha Carlson, Sarah Thibault, Heather Schulte, Meredith McDowell and Annette Marget. We even had a new Family Resources’ baby born! Welcome Kateri Rose (Jessica McCaslin, mom).

Change can be dizzying. Yet one cannot really manifest dreams without surrendering to change. We have to let go of what was and surrender. We have to have faith and trust that as we let go, there will be room for the new. And we have to receive the new by embracing the good and growth it brings.Twenty five years ago I read a book that inspired me called The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho. I loved it then and I love it now (and enjoyed recently re-reading this enchanting little novel.) It’s the hero journey of a shepherd boy named Santiago who travels from his homeland in Spain to the Egyptian desert in search of a treasure buried near the Pyramids. “Lush, evocative, and deeply humane, the story of Santiago is an eternal testament to the transforming power of our dreams and the importance of listening to our hearts.” A frequently quoted line in this little book is “Where your treasure is, there also will be your heart.”

As we prepare to welcome 2015, I invite us to ask ourselves:
What is the “treasure” I am seeking? Am I seeking? What do I really value? What am I called to do? What do I want my personal destiny to be?

I also invite us to listen to our hearts because it is the heart that gives clues to our destiny. Santiago’s heart whispered to him, “Be aware of the place where you are brought to tears. That’s where I am, and that’s where your treasure is.”I often find it challenging to quiet the distractions in life and truly listen to the heart. Yet it is in this attention to the heart that we get clues to help us manifest our dreams. May your heart lead you to deepened joy and hope in this new year as you continue to grow in your own personal journey.

~ Seanne Emerton, Therapist 

Klein ChrisTherapist's Corner...
Keeping Our Lenses Clean

We live in challenging times with wars, deadly viruses, unrest in the Middle East, poverty, financial challenges, shootings, deadly tornados, an increase mental illness and addictions, and homelessness (to name a few). One has only to listen to the news to get a sense of the tragedies, the negatives in our world, the hardships and things we have no control over. It is important to be aware however these challenges can drain our energy and discourage us if we choose to focus on them.

“Celebrate What’s Right in the World” is one of my favorite videos to share in group settings or with individuals as a motivational message. This twenty minute video is narrated by DeWitt Jones, a photographer for the National Geographic magazine. His message and photography are powerful.

Mr. Jones makes several points in the video I would like to share with you. He states that “Our vision controls our perception which determines our reality." So, what we choose to focus on, how we perceive a situation, events or people becomes our reality. And, the good news is, we have the power to alter our perception!! We have the power to choose what we focus on! Changing our focus provides Hope!

Hope is not something that falls into our lap, or something that happens to us. We are not passive recipients of hope. In fact, Hope is a choice that we make every day. It’s a choice to view the world in such a way that we focus on and celebrate what is right in the world. Hope is more than wishful thinking. Hope is a choice in perspective and action. Hope keeps us going!

Do we celebrate the best in people, the best in ourselves? Do we choose to see the possibilities not just the challenges? Looking for possibilities instead of focusing on negative thoughts helps us in our own self-care and stress management.Do we choose to have an attitude of gratitude, to give more than we take? Do we focus on positive behavior and actions in ourselves and others? “Celebrating what’s right allows us to harness the energy we need to fix what’s wrong with the world!"

As we begin the New Year, challenge yourself to “Celebrate What’s Right in the World”!! You may be surprised at the difference it makes in your life.

~ Chris Klein, Therapist

HainAFrom Our EAP...
Five New Year's Resolutions
(Adapted from Ian Altman's article in the online 12/29/14 Forbes magazine)

As we approach the New Year, many people make resolutions to improve an area of their life. This is the most common time for people to make individual goals. This is also the time that people consider their business/job path.
1) Why Are You There, Rather Than What Do You Do
It is easy to get caught in describing what you do. Successsful people do a great job helping others understand why they need their service. People can be influenced by how well you can demonstrate a strong personalized understanding of their situation or needs. The "what I/we do" approach does not elicit the emotions that arise when someone explains the "why" for what he/she/they do because the "why" contains stories and personal connections. You just might learn more about others' needs and you could even get invited to use the service you offer by explaining "why" you do what you do.
2) Divide Long Term Goals Into Short-Term Goals
In many cases, failure is a result of defining the goal, but not establishing a plan to get there. Figure out 3-5 smaller, more attainable steps to reach a larger goal. Be certain the steps are concrete and measurable (e.g., "I will do ___ by ____).
3) Don’t Complain, Act.  
Complaining is an energy suck. Nobody wants to hang out with a complainer. Don't fall into the track of defining yourself as a victim. Instead of victimizing yourself, figure out ways to overcome the obstacles. You'll learn you can overcome many obstacles with problem solving, determination, persistence and teamwork.
4) Stay Away From The Negative
Do you know someone who always complains about their employer or customers? Define a plan to improve your situation. If you give it a fair shot and don’t see your situation improve, then make a plan to move on.
5) Increase Your Value 
Know your stuff and be open to new things. How do you get started? Think of the questions that you get asked, and find a way to address those questions. You don't need to have an answer for everything. Be helpful and be a great teacher on your topic. 

~ Anna Hain, EAP Coordinator

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