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JordanTherapist's Corner...

Merriam-Webster defines adaptation as the process of changing to fit some purpose or situation: the process of adapting. It is my opinion that the best lives are filled with growth and changes that demand that one adapts in order to see these changes as gifts and opportunities for improvement. Charles Darwin spent his career studying the concept of adaptation. He found species of the same bird on different islands with differing beaks that allowed them to more efficiently eat the food supply available to them.
     Adaptation also means progress. Adaptation has brought safety, comfort and increased enjoyment to our lives. It’s hard to see how adaptation could be a bad thing. However, if instead we use the word “change” it may bring about a mix of emotions. Therapists spend a great part of their time with clients encouraging change or adaptation.Adapting to change can bring on discomfort and feelings of insecurity. The frustration of losing what was once familiar to us often slows the process and for some and can bring it to a grinding halt. Focusing on what one has control over is what makes or breaks progress from occurring. No matter what happens in our lives, life keeps moving and we must do our best not to be left behind. Adding to the self-imposed resistance to adaptation are those around us who will offer resistance. Those who know us best often struggle with the changes we attempt to make in our lives, challenging us along the way. Another down side to adaptation is the risk of failure. Change is not easy. To embark on this journey allows for the possibility for failure. However, if there is no risk the reward would mean nothing.
     There are tools that can be used to combat discomfort, lack of support from those around you and the fear of failure: goal setting. Goal setting is critical to success. Goals are most helpful when they are measureable. Rather than setting a goal “I will be nicer at work” set it as “I will give two compliments each day to my coworkers”. Measurable goals hold us accountable and keep us on track. Secondly, write goals down and post them where they will be viewed several times a day, such as a bathroom mirror. Next, find people who will support you in these goals and inspire you to stick to them. Eliminate the non-supporters in your life; change is hard enough on your own. Don’t allow naysayers to have an influence on your journey. Finally, be disciplined but realistic. You won’t adapt overnight. It is a process and you will have days that you fail. Battles will be lost. But you must keep your mind set on winning the war. Be kind to yourself and be encouraging to yourself, you are your greatest cheerleader. Now go out and shake those pom poms.

~ Jordan Plummer, Therapist


Therapist's Corner...

     It's that time of year again...mid-January. Time to give up on your New Year's resolutions. What? You want to improve your health? You're going to travel more? You're going to get famous? You're going to learn another language? You're NOT going to give up on your New Year's resolution?
     Here's a suggestion: SIMPLIFY. Making New Year's resolutions is a great idea...right up to the point where you stop doing it. Last year, I promised to keep my house clean (umm...cleaner). I made it to track season (mid-March, go me!) and then my tornadoes took over (those speedy, destructive, under-four-foot, two-legged toddler tornadoes). I had lots of excuses: work, coaching, pregnancy, blah, blah. But the truth is, I just gave up because I got overwhelmed by my goal.
     So this year, I've stolen my resolution from my preschooler's teacher. I'm going to simplify. How? This is the part that causes the most failures...the "how." For example, you can say "I'm going to get healthier." However, without specific goals, this statement is too vague. You need measurable goals to keep you accountable.That's what I'm going to do...simplify using small, measurable goals. This month, I'm going to take advantage of the below-zero temperatures to defrost my freezers and then to put things back in an orderly fashion. How about all those expired meds in my medicine cabinet? I'm going to get rid of them. I'm now a works-out-of-the-home-but-is-still-in-charge-of-the-home mom-of-three. I'm going to sign up for a class at the community college in February, buy the ingredients, and make crock pot meals that I can freeze and use later (yes, I know there are a TON of crock pot recipes out there on the internet, but I can't seem to find time or space to do it at home).One small goal per month. If I do more than that...well, yeah me!
     So what can you do to simplify and specify your New Year's resolution in order to succeed? Perhaps it's just the realization that you can't SIMPLY need to take it day-by-day, moment-by-moment. SIMPLY praise and reward yourself. SIMPLY start over if you make a mistake. SIMPLY know that no one is perfect. SIMPLY know that you don't need to do it all at once. SIMPLIFY TO SUCCEED.

~ Jessica McCaslin, Therapist


From Our EAP...
Dealing with Debt & Credit Problems

     Is your New Year's resolution to work on getting out of debt? Here are some tips for you:
Are You in Trouble with Debt?
     ■ An increasing amount of your income is going to debt payments.
     ■ You pay only the minimum amount on loans and credit cards.
     ■ You have reached your limit on credit cards.
     ■ You use credit cards to pay for things that you used to pay for with cash.
     ■ Debt prevents you from making contributions to your retirement plan.
     ■ You experience worry, anxiety, or sleeplessness over debt problems.
     ■ You've been in debt before, got out of it, but are burdened by debt again.
Take Action Now
     The first step to resolving debt problems is to decide on the steps to accomplish your goal. This includes making a complete list of the amounts owed and the terms of payment for each amount. Chances are you could use some advice on how to proceed. Many books exist on the subject of eliminating debt. Most bookstores will have numerous offerings. There are also non-profit organizations in every state. They can help you identify steps to take and provide other related services. These include working with your creditors to help make payments easier and advising you on the consequences of claiming bankruptcy, which should only be done with appropriate professional and legal guidance.
     We will take a look at ways to take action against credit card debt in our February newsletter. Stay tuned!

~ Anna Hain, EAP Coordinator

annette marget

FRGN Spotlight...
Introducing Annette! 

     As a new provider at FRGN, I would like to introduce myself. I am a Nurse Practitioner certified in both Family Practice and Psychiatric Mental Health. As a Nurse Practitioner, I am licensed to diagnose and prescribe medications. I am an employee of Premier Psychiatric Group in Lincoln and am contracted to provide services at FRGN. I find the family at FRGN to be very welcoming and accepting and I am very happy to be providing these services here. I am able to offer medication management that compliments the therapy that is being provided to patients at FRGN. Of course I also see patients that are not being seen by the therapists at FRGN. In addition to FRGN, I also see patients at a site in Hastings, one in York and an additional site in GI.
     Nurse Practitioners are nurses who have received special education in diagnosis and treatment of ailments. I hold a Masters degree in Family Practice and a Post Masters Certificate in Mental Health. Beginning in 2015, Nurse Practitioners who are new graduates will be required to have a Doctorate. Those of us who are already practicing will be allowed to continue as long as we do not have a lapse in license. I have been practicing in the psychiatric arena since 2001.
     My practice philosophy is to treat each patient as an individual and accept them where they are. Treatment is a team effort between the patient or parent and me. I encourage patients to use reputable websites to research their illness and treatment. If they want more information about their specific information, I discourage them from doing a Google search of the name of the medication. I encourage them to go to the pharmaceutical website and look at the Product Information or go to WebMD or National Institutes of Medicine to research the illness and treatment. Those are reliable websites. Information on blogs is generally entered by people who are reporting on their individual experience, which usually is negative and is then expanded to make it an assumption that because they did not respond positively to the medication, that makes it “poison,” when in fact, it is a great tool used to treat the condition for others. My goal is to help each patient move toward being the best person that they can be through medication, therapy and education. I spend as much time as possible providing information about conditions, medication and treatment modalities.
     I also believe that medication is not the complete answer. There are other treatments that are also helpful as well as efforts from the patient. It has been proven through research that patients get better faster with a combination of medication and therapy and this requires efforts from the patient in engaging in therapy and taking medications as prescribed.
     In my personal life, I am married, have 3 grown children and 3 grandsons.
     I look forward to working with everyone at FRGN!

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