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Therapist's Corner...
Blossoming into a new YOU

     When I think of spring the word “change” comes to mind. The colors change throughout the world, flowers start to bloom, and moods appear brighter. Change can be natural to some and challenging for others, but what does it really take to change?
     I, personally, find it to be a challenge. Every spring I make it a goal to improve my well-being, whether it’s exercising to fit a pair of favorite shorts, throwing away toxic materials in my house to live a greener life, or starting a new hobby I have always wanted to try. Regardless what the change is, I usually find myself experiencing several emotions and somewhat of a battle in my head. "Should I make this change? I know this change will be good, but I just do not have the time or energy."
     As I observe the first signs of spring, I am reminded of what the changing process may look and feel by a single flower. Before a flower blooms, the petals of the flower are tightly compressed against one another. Will the flower bloom? Will someone come along and destroy the flower? Will it survive? When thoughts of change enter our heads we begin to experience “negative thinking” and a rush of emotions such as “I am too tired to do something new,” followed by the feelings of scared, anxious, or worthless. While the flower is tightly compressed it is waiting for the nourishment that it needs to bloom. Contemplating a change takes courage, commitment, and trust. It is easy to say you are going to make a change, but are you willing to find a motivation, follow a plan, and believe in yourself that this change can be made?
     As the flower petals begin to loosen, many challenges await. Rain, snow, wind, or disastrous weathers could affect the condition of the flower. The roots help anchor the flower, while the rest of the flower is adapting to the challenge. Just like the flower, when an individual is making a change, many challenges may arise. These challenges could be a loss in our lives that end up affecting our mental and physical well-being, and unexpected health concern, finances or limited child care. These unexpected events can change our mood and thinking process, in which it may be easier to just “give up.” Challenges will push an individual, and one may find themselves crying, feeling depressed, or losing their motivation, but what will it take for you to overcome this challenge? What will be your anchor?
     As days go by a flower becomes stronger and begins to bloom through the nourishment of soil, rain, and sun. During this time a flower is exposing its vibrant color(s) and offering nourishment to other sources among this earth. Just like the petals of a blooming flower, an individual may reach out and trust others for support. These supporters experience your journey, and are able to pick up your petals if they begin to fall.
     When an individual commits oneself to a specific change, he or she is able to find inner strength and belief that worries and fears can be confronted, and goals can be accomplished. A person feels “vibrant” and alive. This change was accomplished through their inner strength, passion, and hope. Tears may be shed and muscles may be pulled, but remember what was your “WHY,” your “ANCHOR” to make this change?

Mandy Lamberson, Therapist

Klein Chris

Therapist's Corner...
Addicted 

Ad*dic*tion
…the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity.
     Short Definition of Addiction: Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry. Addiction is characterized by inability to consistently abstain, impairment in behavioral control, craving, diminished recognition of significant problems with one’s behaviors and interpersonal relationships, and a dysfunctional emotional response. www.asam.org/.../definition-of-addiction
     Addiction is a persistent, compulsive dependence on a behavior or substance. www.8medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/addiction
     There are many definitions of “addiction” and each definition provides us with valuable information in our attempt to understand something that is difficult to understand and to talk about.
     Addiction is a disorder of the brain's reward center. As noted in the definitions mentioned above, addiction can be a dependence on a behavior or a substance. Think about that for a moment. Pornography, spending, credit card use, sex, gaming, work, exercise, relationships, cell phone use, eating – all are behaviors that appeal to the brain's reward center and could potentially lead to addiction if done in excess. We often think of addiction in terms of alcohol, tobacco, prescription and illegal drug use. Think again, as addiction doesn’t care who you are or where you come from, what you do for a living or the color of your skin. The reality of addiction is that we are all susceptible.
     Addiction is a painful topic especially for those who live with or love someone who is actively addicted because it can wreck havoc in relationships and families. I see and hear that pain all too often as a drug and alcohol counselor: the daughter who feels powerless as she sees her father as a stranger due to his alcohol addiction, or dying due to medical complications related to alcoholism; the wife who grieves her husband’s incarceration due to his involvement with pornography; the adult son of a raging alcoholic who tormented his wife and children for years with his abuse; the parents who are confused by the hours their daughter spends in front of a computer screen, seemingly lost to the family. Look around. Perhaps you know of someone who is or has been affected by addiction.
     There is hope! New research into brain function has shed a different light on the topic. Addiction is not a moral failure or a character flaw as was once thought. New medications and medical interventions are available. Reputable sources of information are also available to increase our understanding of addiction, recovery, and brain function. There are many 12 Step Recovery Programs-for substance and behavioral addictions in most communities. There are faith-based support groups, meditation books, treatment facilities, and millions of individuals worldwide who are enjoying the journey of recovery.
     Although addiction-whether to a substance or behavior-is a difficult and for many, a painful topic, lets talk about it! Let’s learn about it! Addiction is preventable.

Chris Klein, Therapist

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Respect and Civility at Work

     Employees' behaviors can be detrimental to the well-being and productivity of coworkers. A lack of respect in the workplace, if left unchecked, will drag down morale, create higher turnover, and increase risks to the employer. Do you contribute to a respectful workplace?

What Signals Are You Sending?
     Respect is the regard or consideration we have for others in all aspects of what concerns them—personal property, appearance, character traits, values, personal space, opinions, and emotional well-being. Each of us has personal power, and with it, we affect others around us, whether we know it or not. 

You Have the Power
     Your daily actions signal to others the level of personal respect you hold for them. Understanding that what you do matters can increase your personal awareness and give you more control over the direct, indirect, or unspoken signals you send to others. It can help you to make improvements in your relationships and increase your happiness at work. This awareness is the key to increasing the courtesy and mutual respect we want from each other.

Big Impacts from Small Stuff
     The following are some common behaviors often considered disrespectful. Do you doany of them? Have you been on the receiving end? Use the list (and others you can think of) to help you consider your role in helping maintain a respectful workplace:
  •Communication: Interrupting others who are speaking; neglecting to say please and thank you; purposely avoiding an obvious chance to offer a compliment, to say good morning, etc.; criticizing someone in front of others; using profanity to “be yourself” and making this other people’s problem if they don’t like it.
  
Privacy: Asking personal questions of someone you do not know well; reading another person’s mail; peering at someone’s computer screen.
  • Boundaries: Taking things from others' desks; not returning borrowed items; standing too close or staring at another person; not stopping offensive behaviors after a reasonable request.
  •Environmental: Not cleaning up after yourself; having a loud conversation or playing loud music; keeping your work area unsightly, overly dirty, or dusty; displaying visual objects in  your workspace that offend others or contrast heavily with what most people consider good taste or appropriate; using the last of something and not replacing it—food, supplies, toilet paper.
  •Differences: Participating in intolerant behavior or using language associated with racial, sexual, age-related, or other human differences that offends or contributes to a hostile, offensive, or intimidating work environment.
  •Interpersonal: Behaving in a way that invalidates someone else’s successes; spreading rumors, or not correcting rumors; gossiping; taking credit for someone else’s work; criticizing a coworker’s character to another worker (or a client!) who has not formulated a firsthand opinion; labeling coworkers with personality or character traits you don’t like; habitually using cynical language or sarcasm; not sharing in the work.
  •Macro Issues: Macro issues can be rhetorical and may not be directed specifically at one person. Espousing religious and political views that others may not want to hear; repeating catastrophic and “doomsday” predictions about the company, the country, the world, or geopolitical issues that maintain an atmosphere of anxiety for others. 

Your Respectful Workplace
     You don't have to “walk on egg shells” to be respectful. It’s about awareness so you can practice self-disciplineknowing the powerful impact we all have on each other and knowing that each person has a vital role in creating the type workplace that we all want to share.

~ Lana Lenz, EAP Administrator (resource: Daniel Feerst, LISW-CP, WorkExcel.com)

JoyceFRGN Spotlight...
Introducing Joyce!

Joyce Heger is a Licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner and a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker who has re-joined Family Resources of Greater Nebraska following her employment with the Veteran’s Administration working with traumatized veterans. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree from Nebraska Wesleyan University and a Master of Social Work degree from University of Nebraska at Omaha.  Ms. Heger has provided client-centered, solution-focused psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families in the private and public sector for over 40 years.  Her areas of expertise include relationship, marital and family therapy, divorce and co-parenting, adoption, elder adult concerns,  and life transition issues.  Ms. Heger has extensive experience in the treatment of depression, anxiety, trauma issues, grief and loss, as well as in the treatment of veterans who have experienced combat.  

 

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