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Therapist's Corner...
Homework Hassles: Tips for Survival

     Most schools are back in full swing meaning busier schedules and more obligations to meet. The most stressful time in many homes - the always present homework! Homework time for kids and their parents can be extremely stressful. I see many families in my office that struggle a great deal in the evenings when it comes time to pull out the homework. For kids, it is a continuation of an already overwhelming task from earlier in their day. For parents a complete guessing game and extension to an already long day.
     Lost in Translation: Create a plan with your child as to how assignments will be written down during the day, and materials needed and brought home. Many teachers have a system in place to help students and parents communicate with your child’s teacher if help is needed executing the system.
     Divide and Conquer: Match a parent to a subject they feel most comfortable assisting the child with.
     Set the Timer: Set a timer appropriate to the child’s attention span. Sit down to do homework for the set amount of time. When time is up, allow child and parent to take a 10-minute break from one another before 
resuming work.
     Timing is Everything: Understand if your child works best jumping into homework coming straight home from school, with a short break first, or perhaps after dinner. Evaluate weak/strong subject areas for your child and plan accordingly. Keep in mind attention spans tend to shorten, as parent and child grow more tired.
     Stay Cool: Heated conflict does not make for a healthy learning environment. Keep voices at a comfortable volume, stay seated and as the parent try to multitask as little as possible.
     Location, Location, Location: Have a consistent homework space in your home. This space should be free of clutter, quiet and as low traffic as possible.

~ Jordan Allen, Therapist

Waddington Tracy

Therapist's Corner...
How Do I Work To Take Care of Me?

     How many of us, if we are truly honest with ourselves, can say; “I truly don’t make enough time for me? I don’t always do a great job of working to make certain that I do things that help me to be the best me that I can be?!”
     Life can become so overwhelming, it is hard when we are trying to balance work, family, school, friendships/relationships, etc. that we can often times feel stuck, isolated and all alone.
     One of the things that I work with in my sessions with clients is asking that very question; “Despite all that is going on within your life, what are you doing to truly take care of you on a daily basis?” My work is sitting with my clients and creating what I call a Chill Skill List or coping strategies. Their homework is to work from that list to practice 1-2 or more of doing those skills that speak to their heart. Our goal is “HOW CAN I TAKE TIME AND MAKE TIME EVERY DAY TO DO A SKILLS SET 
     These are simple things that should not need to be complicated in any way shape or form. Examples of things that can bring us peace might look like, listening to music, taking slow deep breaths, going for a walk, a bike ride, a run/jog, journaling, reaching out and talking to or spending time with a friend or loved one, reading, etc. Our goal is how can we truly rest our mind, our worries, and find time to relax and enjoy those things that give back to you and truly create a sense of peace and safety that is not for anyone else, but for YOU.
     It takes 21 days to create a habit or even break a habit, so if you are working to SCHEDULE TIME IN YOUR DAY FOR YOU, for the next 21 days it will become a healthy part of you that facilitates a positive mindset that you not only mentor to others, but most importantly to yourself. It means being able to draw a line in the sand and say “I AM WORTHY, I AM SPECIAL, AND I AM DESERVING TO MAKE TIME FOR ME!” There is only one of yo. Our children, our co-workers, our friends/family, spouse/significant other NEED to know it is healthy to have great boundaries that show that you are worthy and significant to de-compress and to re-charge, and to re-focus so that you can become the best version of you that there is!!
     My challenge to each of you reading this is to draw your line in the sand and for the next 21 days, begin to practice creating and developing your list of chill skills and pick 1-2 of those strategies daily and DO THEM!! Remember you are worthy; you are so worthy!!

~ Tracy Waddington, Therapist


From Our EAP...
4 Tips to Cultivate Happiness in the Workplace

     Statistics have repeatedly proven that happy employees are more productive and successful in their jobs. However, the reality is that not every employee is happy. There are employees who are unsettled or even disgruntled with their work environment; however, because they don’t want to disappoint their manager or they fear negative reprecussions, they don’t speak up about their unhappiness.
     Before losing another employee due to unhappiness, consider these four ways to evaluate and improve your company’s happiness quotient.
     1. Translate nonverbal communication. The first step to creating a happier workplace is to identify unhappy employees. This can be done fairly easy by paying attention to nonverbal communication, such 
as body language. Facial expressions, eye contact, body posture, and vocal tone are all important. By paying attention to these nonverbal cues when communicating with your employees, you will be able to separate the happy from the frustrated.
     2. Ask questions. Once you’ve identified an unhappy employee, it’s time to find the root of the unhappiness. Don’t make assumptions or jump to conclusions. Instead, take time to find out what’s going on with the individual. Why are they upset? They could be upset with you, their current job status or a co-worker It’s also possible that they are unhappy due to something unrelated to their time at work. Then let them discover, on their own under your guidance, how they can overcome those happiness obstacles.
     3. Encourage conflict resolution. If it turns out that an employee’s barrier to happiness is being caused by a conflict with another employee, help them find the courage to resolve the problem on their own. Ignoring conflict can be costly; plus, it wastes resources such as time and productivity because behaviors such as gossiping emerge. Encourage face-to-face communication, in a safe environment, where the employees can discuss and work out conflicts. Then be sure to follow up, asking how the meeting went. That follow-through will demonstrate your concern and support for the unhappy employee, as well as show you whether further steps need to be taken.
     4. Grow employee confidence. Confidence and happiness go hand in hand when it comes to employees, so we must seek out opportunities to grow confidence within our workforce. Seek out ways to empower and instill confidence. For example, demonstrating respect, celebrating successes, delegating responsibility, mentoring, allowing for creativity and providing an environment of honesty.
     If you’re hoping to cultivate an environment of happy, productive and confident employees, begin first by identifying those who are unhappy, uncover possible reasons for frustration, invite healthy conflict resolution and seek opportunities to build employee confidence.

~ Lana Lenz, EAP Coordinator (adapted from May 2017 Forbes article by David K. Williams)

FRGN Highlights

Family Resources of Greater Nebraska, P.C. would like to thank Heather L. McCue  with Nebraska Total Care. On August 4th, Ms. McCue came to our clinical retreat in Grand Island and presented Recover and Resiliency Principles. We hope to have her return for more continuing education.


Family Resources’ therapist, Jordan Allen, completed the Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 training in Kansas City, KS on August 4th and 5th.


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