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Elder LeanneTherapist’s Corner…Coping with Stress with a Positive Mood 

     Norman Vincent Peale says "If you put off everything till you're sure of it, you'll never get anything done." He also says "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities."
     Put these two sentences together and you can accomplish a great deal and be happier in the end.
     Sometimes it's difficult to have faith in your abilities, to have an optimistic view of things, and/or the energy and commitment to complete what you want. It depends on many factors, some of which you can control, and others you cannot.
     For me, there are a variety of things in my life that put a damper on my mood. For instance, weather that prevents travel to a special event, wanting to be in two places at once, having a prior commitment or having to choose, health issues, too many things to do and concerns about getting them done in a timely fashion, distance between us and our son (and simply missing him), missing a niece that lives far away, and cousins, and friends as well. Even having family and friends that are close can affect me because I'm not always able to spend time with them. Finding an alternate way to connect with others is challenging, yet workable.
     When I am struggling with any of these things, or anything else, it's at this time that I first allow myself to "be" - to meet myself where I am. I allow myself to feel the feelings at that moment. Remember, feelings are not right or wrong - they just ARE.
     Next I take the opportunity to look and choose from my positive coping ideas that assist me with the roadblocks in my life. It's not always easy. Sometimes it takes encouragement from others and my own self-talk and commitment to a positive coping choice. It even takes reminders to be like the Little Engine That Could!
     It is about the stress, and yet, it's more about choosing to "deal" with stress in a positive manner.
     In Carol Burnett's words, "Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me."
     Blessings for a positive coping kind of day!

~ Leanne Elder, Therapist


Therapist’s Corner…Caring for Caregivers

     One area of focus in my office with many clients is working to balance the many responsibilities in their lives. First and foremost clients must care for themselves. However, when filling the role of caregiver to a loved one it is often difficult to keep one’s own needs in mind.
     A caregiver is anyone who provides help to another person in need, such as an ill spouse or partner, a disabled child, or an aging relative. However, family members who are actively caring for an older adult often don't self-identify as a "caregiver." Recognizing this role can help caregivers receive the support they need. In America 34.2 million people have provided unpaid care to an adult age 50 or older in the last 12 months [National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP. (2015). Caregiving in the U.S.]. Of those millions upwards of 75% of those caregivers are female with an average age of 49 [Institute on Aging. (2016)].
     Some warning signs for caregiver stress include feeling overwhelmed or constantly worried, feeling tired, sleeping too much or too little and dramatic changes in weight.
Additionally increased irritation, lost interest in activities, sadness, physical problems and alcohol or drug abuse including abuse of prescription medications are warning signs for caretaker burnout.
     Here are ten tips from the national nonprofit Caregiver Action Network:             
          1. Seek support from other caregivers. You are not alone.
          2. Take care of you own health so that you can be strong to take care of your loved one.
          3. Accept offers of help and suggest specific things people can do to help you.
          4. Learn to communicate effectively with doctors.
          5. Caregiving is hard work so take respite breaks often
          6. Watch for signs for depression and don’t delay getting professional help when you need it.
          7. Be open to new technologies that can help you care for your loved one.
          8. Organize medical information so it’s up to date and easy to find.
          9. Make sure legal documents are in order.
          10.Give yourself credit for doing the best you can in one of the toughest jobs there is.
     Caregiving for a loved one is a beautiful gift to offer. One must nurture and care for themselves in order to share that gift. Please take notice of the people in your own life who are caregivers and offer support and love where you can.

~ Jordan Allen, Therapist


Tips from Our  EAP...Free Ways to Boost Employee Morale


     When a manager deals with a group of people who enjoy coming to work, it makes their job easier and more enjoyable, too. High morale 
reduces turnover, improves performance, creates loyalty, and generally makes for a more pleasant work
    What many managers don’t realize is that one of the biggest morale boosters is employees' relationship with their supervisor. Here are some cost-free ways to build morale:
     1. Encourage open communication while allowing respectful disagreement. Make your expectations clear. Share information, future plans, and company direction.
     2. Solicit advice and input on changes, procedures, or plans that affect your employees.  Engage everyone in the process through one-on-one communication, surveys, and open-ended questions (questions that solicit answers with explanations, not simply "yes" or "no"). Admit that you sometimes make mistakes and don’t always have the right answers.
     3. Give frequent feedback. Report the wins as well as the losses. Tell your employees what they’re doing right as often as you tell them what they’re doing wrong. In fact, try pointing out desired behaviors and outcomes MORE OFTEN than wrong ones. Use an outstanding
performance as an example of how to do things the right way.
     4. Praise your employees publicly for their successes. Praise them to others when they’re not around to hear it. It's a big compliment and self-esteem booster when an employee hears a third party was saying good things about them.
     5. Concentrate on helping employees learn and grow from their mistakes. Create a culture of adaptation, learning, and
continuing education. Admit that you also have room to grow.
     6. Manage disruptive employees. One person can poison an entire culture if left unchecked. Start by addressing the
disruptive employee’s concerns one-on-one in a non-confrontational manner. If you can’t come to a mutually satisfactory solution, termination may be necessary.
     7. Discipline privately and discreetly. Don’t allow disciplinary action to become personal. Be brief and to the point, and then let it go. Never humiliate or demean an employee. Never bad-mouth your employees to others.
     8. Build trust by backing your employees, protecting their interests, and shielding them from unfair criticism.
     9. Address employee concerns promptly, and give verbal status reports on issues you are still working to resolve. If you can’t resolve an employee concern, explain why. It’s important to know that you didn’t forget due to lack of interest.
     10. Use small perks like allowing an employee to knock off work a few hours early after completing a big project, or
treating the office with healthy snacks. This reinforces to employees that hard work is recognized and appreciated.
     11. Learn something about each employee’s personal life and show genuine interest in it. Share some part of your life. 
     12. Give employees control over work space, desk, decorations, and other small matters. Everyone needs occasional wins.
     Developing good employee morale is a matter of developing your own positive personal and managerial skills. Remember that morale can fluctuate as workplace dynamics change. View your attempts to lift morale as an
ongoing process rather than an ending point. No one gets it right all the time, but the more thought and effort you put into it, the greater your success.

~ Lana Lenz, EAP Coordinator (adapted from Daniel Feerst, LISW-CP,

FRGN Anniversaries!!

Family Resources of Greater Nebraska, P.C. is an amazing place to work.
Congratulations to these employees on their FRGN anniversaries!


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15 years




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